My bf I believe is being emotionally abusive...I think?

We got in a big fight. Once he would speak to me again I explained to him for me it is extremely emotionally abusive for me when he ignores me or stops talking to me. Fri&Sat he only responded in regards to using him as a reference and when I asked him if he was still coming down. Which he wasn't cuz he said his dad couldn't lend him the money cuz his van broke down. Was he ever going to tell me this? I mentioned I'd probably be in the area. But even though I mentioned that he doesn't even invite me over, he still didn't ask. I also think it made him nervous that I was possibly coming to breakup with him. He couldn't even say good night when I said it both nights. If he's still mad and thinking I would think he could at least say good night? I sent him a naught pic the other night just to try to lightn things, he would never comment on it even when I brought it up and even emailed him that it hurt my feelings and made me feel like he wasn't attracted to me anymore. Couldn't even get a response via email. I don't know what to do. What do you think?